It all begins with IGNORING

You look at your marriage and wonder and ask how things got so sour. You are not even sure if you are happy or just living one day at a time. Things seem to have turned around from sweet to bitter, from playing to frequent arguments, and when your spouse tells you “I love you”, you respond just so he/she doesn’t feel hurt even though deep down they sense that you may not mean it and may also feel the same way.
You find yourself cry just by seeing other couples that appear happy even in a movie, and the only question running through your mind is “how did we get here?” and  feel the hotness of your blood running through your veins and your heart racing with heaviness. Well, this pain, exhaustion, struggle, coldness and final breakdown in marriage often begins sadly with a ''mere'' action called IGNORING.
Ignoring the little things that hurt your spouse
Ignoring your spouse who is sitting alone looking sad and you assume they just need alone time even though it really doesn’t hurt to ask
Ignoring your spouse cry because you judged the situation as too little to cry for
Ignoring to ask how their day went because they don’t have a job so you assume being home all day can’t be that stressful
Ignoring the fact that your joke hurts and you even get angry that they are hurt by a “mere” joke
Ignoring their request of you thinking they can do without it
Ignoring the truth that your spouse is the most important person in your life since you became joined in holy matrimony
Ignoring that your spouse wants you to simply tell them that you would go the extra miles for them because you expect that they knew that already
Ignoring that your wife needs you to mean your words and hold you accountable for them
Ignoring that you husband needs you to be his support and not his judge
Ignoring that your spouse needs you to love them for who they are while they work on becoming who you need them to be
Ignoring that your spouse can’t read your mind and need you to tell them what is going on
Ignoring that all you need to say is “I’m sorry” but you won’t give your spouse the satisfaction because of your pride
Ignoring that a family that prays together, stays together
Ignoring that a couple that study God’s word together and gain understanding will have the wisdom to solve not only marital problems
Ignoring that not telling your problems to God is simply shutting him out.
Ignoring that our vows are life’s covenant and not just a cliche.

Hey! do these sound familiar? would it be you? Well, we all have done some of these things if not all and more. It is so easy to unintentionally ignore and do not even recognize how much damage it can do to our marriage. But it is time to take some responsibilities and do what is right. Stop ignoring your spouse,stop ignoring the things you call little,they may be mighty to your spouse. Stop,stop and stop! You Know exactly what I'm m talking about, if not then you need to self evaluate. It is never too late; and in my candid opinion, we never really fall out of love, we only get exhausted fighting the ones we love. 

 If only we will fight for our marriage instead of fighting for our ego and be humble enough to ask and allow God help and restore all that has been damaged, so we can be happy and fulfilled again. Marriage is not difficult,people are.

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