First Year of Marriage doesn't have to be Horrible (3)
My name is Oluwakemi
Sogunle-Ogundimu,a nutritionist by profession ,a daughter of Zion, very
passionate about God, married to my husband Taiwo and blessed with two adorable
kids.
Yes! The first
year of marriage…….
Can be liken to the
foundation laying when building a structure, and like a typical first time
builder or someone who just got a piece of land and is so excited about
building, different thoughts about what should, or would be, will fill the person's
heart. At this point, It is imperative to pause and think; What quality, Type
and kind of structure do I really want to pull. An amazing edifice? Just a normal structure? Outdated building? All
these will determine what goes into the natural building of that structure; same as in marriage; what happens in the first year cements the foundation laying, if care is not taken this may be the issue that could rock the marriage even
before it starts.
The book of Joshua 3:4 talks about not
passing through a particular route hence need for utmost guidance, so as the
first 365days of marriage. I will say 365 days learning and understanding ABC of my spouse.
How do I learn? Like elementary, we do visuals and sound, as well as basic
principles. Do unto others (your partner) like I would love to be treated; I
want to be helped when I need help, help your spouse. I like my little fault to
be overlooked and not be labored, Do likewise. I love to be loved irrespective
of my mood, do same. I want to be listened to, listen to your spouse. I hate to
be given attitudes, don’t give attitude. It a simple law and it works.
Be open
minded, nothing hidden, laugh at each other’s mistakes, be
real. The length of courtship doesn't determine how beautiful your marriage
will be, but how you both make it come to play being very pure at heart.
Once you are married, it is important to
know your actions and reactions will be questionable, and you are answerable, so
be very careful. Whenever you are in doubt of anything, Ask questions! Your partner isn't a spirit, if you don’t talk
about what is wrong, they may not be able to figure it out.
Our different
background is one major issue that causes rifts in the first year; have in mind
that yours isn’t superior to the other. It is just about what we were
differently exposed to, so bring such to the table, pick what will work from
each background for the new home that is formed.
Never let the sun
do down on your wrath. Always resolve issues before the next day, it saves a
lot of headaches and your peace is very well guaranteed.
Also, the magic words
we learnt as kids will do a lot of wonder in the initial days of living
together as a couple; Please ,excuse me, sorry ,thank you and pardon me will
clear doubts in your partners mind and reveal to them how much they are valued
Above all, praying
together helps reduce the severity of hitches we may likely experience, you
can't be praying together and remain at loggerheads over issues; can two walk
together except they agree?
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